Let’s talk a bit today about why your goals fail.
Most of us have, at one time or another, set goals for ourselves, yeah? You have probably wanted to work out more, eat healthier, keep a cleaner house. Maybe you’ve always wanted to start a business, read more, or remember birthdays.
If you’ve ever set any goals for yourself, how many times have you started with sincere enthusiasm, only to fizzle out and lose motivation pretty quickly?
*raises hand* I’ll cop to it.
Here’s how I see it go down all the time:
Look familiar? Feel familiar? Make you want to bury your head in your blankets and go back to sleep for 10 years?
I get it. So let’s talk about it.
Why your goals fail
1. you’re *should*ing
You’re not setting goals that really matter to you. The goals you’re setting are the ones you think you should be setting.
Get your “why” in check before everything else and go from there.
2. trying to do #allthethings
You cannot do all the things. Or if you *can* do all the things, you’re certainly not able to do them all well. Your focus is unclear because you’ve got too much you want to accomplish. Choose one or two big focus areas (like health, family, money, career) and work on smaller goals within those areas.
3. unrealistic timelines
Y’all. You’re not going to lose 50 lbs in 3 months. If you’re working an entry level job, you’re probably not going to make manager by the end of the year. If you’re able to save $50 a week, you’re not going to have $5k in the bank by Christmas.
Are these possible to do? Sure. I firmly believe anything can happen. Are these likely? Not really.
If anything, try to err on the side of giving yourself MORE time than you need to accomplish your goals. You’ve got to find the sweet spot with timelines.
Keeping it open ended with no timeline? Your goal is going to get put on the back-burner in place of other things.
Timeline too tight to be realistic? You’re going to give up on yourself once the deadline has passed feeling like a failure.
4. hitting a bump in the road and giving up completely
I’ve been there, friend. This ties back into point #1 – you don’t have your “why” in check. When you give up after the tiniest setback, that means you were just looking for a reason to quit.
Have no shame in your game, okay? This just means you haven’t set the *right* goal, or haven’t set it at the right *time*.
5. lack of planning
When you fail to plan, you plan to fail. I feel like that phrase was hammered into my brain throughout my adolescence. Maybe that’s why I was vehemently opposed to planning out my life as a young adult.
Turns out, after 10 years of flailing and failing, planning is the one thing that is allowing me to keep my head on straight.
So I am obviously a huge advocate of the Simplified Planner and Powersheets combo. Powersheets to help you set goals and figure out your why, and the Simplified Planner to apply that to your every day life.
We’re coming up on the halfway point of 2017 and I want to hear from YOU how your goals are coming along. Are you crushing it? Share with us what’s helping you be successful! Dealing with a major goals fail? Which of those up there apply to you?
Let’s chat <3